Yocelyn said...
Dear: Dad,
Can you please tell me how I can avoid this feelings.
I hate when people pretend to work but is just pretend nothing else.
Thank you
Yocelyn
Friday, August 7, 2009 1:38:00 PM PDT
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Dear Yocelyn,
Our feelings and perceptions are often the toughest thing we need to understand and manage, when it comes to our jobs and those we work beside. There is nothing gained by ever worrying what the other guy is or isn't doing... there's an old maxim that says, throwing mud will only leave you without ground to walk upon.
Leave it to the managers to identify what's really happening. You will find that anything that costs money will eventually get attention and nonproductivity can be calculated. Never, does such activity continue long - in relative terms. Even the individual becomes uncomfortable, doing nothing, and this affects their personal self-esteem and self-worth.
Encourage them to participate. Challenge them by 'dividing the work into lots' or by creating 'piece work' compensation. If it's not your direct responsibility, back off.
I understand your question is about how you can better deal with your feelings in such a case. I also understand that your feelings are directly linked to what you think may be unfair. From your perspective, such behaviour is both unfair and wrong. Yes, you are correct and such behaviour should never be part of your own proper work ethic. It's only your rationality of it that matters. Lead by example. Don't worry about them. They will eventually fall flat and lose out, or correct their behaviour.
There was a Harvard School study done which found that people are willing to lose out when they think something is unfair. A group of people were divided into pairs.
One individual, from each pair, was offered $100. and with two conditions:
Condition #1 -- Only the first person must decide how the $100. is to be split between the two.
Condition #2 -- If the second person does not agree with the division made by the first person, then no one gets any of the $100.
Yocelyn, you would be amazed at how many people tried dividing the money and upon rationalizing their decisions came to a different decision than you would believe was fair.
On the other hand, rationally, the second person should agree to whatever the first person decides for a split. This was NOT the case in the majority of the study.
If person #1 says, I will keep $90.00 and only give $10.00 to the other participant, they would both still win out... the second person would still have $10.00 more than before, which is a good thing.
I know that this would differ from your perceptions of a fair division. In fact, if you were offered $10.00 you would turn it down, just to aggravate the first person.... yes, the first person, in your opinion, should offer a 50:50 split. It's only reasonable. The first person would have offended your sense of fairness. I hope you can see...it just doesn't matter. Dad
Friday, August 7, 2009 3:56:00 PM PDT
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