You should be more aware of her sensitivities. It's tough being around people that are always critical. Sometimes people use this tactic to bolster their own image.... it's like an expert that that doesn't always agree with a group of people, even when the group of people are correct. It is like the expert suggesting he is in some way more knowledgeable. I once had a fellow I knew that would bluff his way through anything. He would provide answers that no one could possible know of check. when asked questions he provided precise statistical answers like 2.235% or some such response that would take years to prove out or was so obscure that no study would ever be taken. All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. Thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become habits, habits become our character. We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive. The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. For some, change and learning is enjoyable and exciting. For others, change and learning is a drudgery. For many, it's just okay, something required on the road to a job.
"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Abraham Lincoln
Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that form our self-image and our world-image.
These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.
The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our innerconversations.
What Should We Be Saying?
One approach is called the three C's: Commitment, Control and Challenge.
Commitment Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.
Control Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize to practice your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself and recognize negative influences.
Challenge Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.
Studies show that people with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.
Research shows that,"... people who begin consciously to modify their inner conversations and assumptions report an almost immediate improvement in their performance. Their energy increases and things seem to go better ..."
Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking. Positive thinking leads to positive energy, intuition, health, strength of character and mind.
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You should be more aware of her sensitivities. It's tough being around people that are always critical. Sometimes people use this tactic to bolster their own image.... it's like an expert that that doesn't always agree with a group of people, even when the group of people are correct. It is like the expert suggesting he is in some way more knowledgeable. I once had a fellow I knew that would bluff his way through anything. He would provide answers that no one could possible know of check. when asked questions he provided precise statistical answers like 2.235% or some such response that would take years to prove out or was so obscure that no study would ever be taken. All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. Thoughts become words, words become actions, actions become habits, habits become our character.
We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive. The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. For some, change and learning is enjoyable and exciting. For others, change and learning is a drudgery. For many, it's just okay, something required on the road to a job.
"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Abraham Lincoln
Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that form our self-image and our world-image.
These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.
The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our innerconversations.
What Should We Be Saying?
One approach is called the three C's: Commitment, Control and Challenge.
Commitment
Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of
success. Be enthusiastic.
Control
Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize to practice your actions. Develop a
strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself and recognize negative influences.
Challenge
Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider
several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.
Studies show that people with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.
Research shows that,"... people who begin consciously to modify their inner conversations and assumptions report an almost immediate improvement in their performance. Their energy increases and things seem to go better ..."
Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking. Positive thinking leads to positive energy, intuition,
health, strength of character and mind.
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